When people decide to divorce, it can be an emotional experience. Feelings
of anxiety, loneliness, and depression are normal. It is understandable
that you may want to seek comfort in a new relationship to help you cope
with these emotions. But is it a good idea to start dating during your divorce?
Most divorce lawyers would advise clients to avoid dating before a divorce
is over because it can affect your case in many ways. Below are some things
to consider before you start jumping back into the dating scene. If you
do decide to move forward with a new relationship, we also have some tips
on how to minimize the negative impacts on your case.
How Dating Can Affect Your Family
Your children – It is possible that your children may not react well to your new
partner. They may feel that you have abandoned them or resent your new
relationship. It is important to think about your children and whether
you want to introduce additional sources of stress into an already stressful time.
Your spouse – Some spouses can become jealous or angry if you start dating somebody
new, which can potentially increase hostility and make the divorce even
more difficult to settle.
Your own well-being – Are you really ready for a new relationship? Or are you looking
for a rebound? Make sure that you are emotionally and psychologically
ready before you make the decision to date.
How Dating Can Affect Your Divorce Case
Child Support and Spousal Support: If you are living with your new partner and sharing expenses, the court
can take this into consideration when determining support amounts. Depending
on your situation, you may be awarded less than the ideal amount or ordered
to pay higher support.
Child Custody and Parenting: Dating can complicate custody because children may refuse to spend time
with you knowing that you are dating a new person. In some cases, judges
may see the spouse who is dating during a divorce in a negative light
and could result in less parenting time.
Don’t Do The Following If You Decide to Date During Divorce
- DON’T date until you and your spouse are living separately
- DON’T live with your boyfriend or girlfriend during divorce proceedings
- DON’T get pregnant or impregnate someone, as this can complicate
and prolong your case
- DON’T air your relationship on social media – it is best to
keep a low profile
- DON’T forget to make time for your children
Compassionate Support Through Your Divorce
At Saponaro Barach Bingham LLP, we have a team of experienced
divorce attorneys in Wellesley who can help guide you through your divorce proceedings. Whether we are
helping you navigate property division discussion, custody disputes, or
child support matters, we are here for you every step of your divorce.
Our team can provide effective representation and customized solutions
to help you move forward to the next chapter of your life with confidence.
Start with a free initial
consultation and let’s talk about your divorce issues.