Creating a visitation schedule during the holidays can take some cooperation,
communication, and time, but doing so will save you and your children
a lot of stress and confusion in the end. By creating a schedule, your
kids will have a sense of stability, which is a necessary element in child
development. Learn how to create a holiday schedule with your co-parent
that is cohesive, easy to remember and fair.
Step 1 - First, determine when the Holiday starts. For example, if your child has
Christmas break when does the Christmas holiday start? If one parent has
custody of your children for the Christmas holiday, does this mean both
Christmas Eve and Christmas Day? Does Easter Sunday start the night before
so you can be on time for church early in the morning?
Step 2 – Then decide how your plan to the split the holidays. There are
many ways families can separate the holidays. Ultimately, what you choose
for your family should only be determined by what works best for everyone.
Below are some basic ways families choose to share holidays with their children.
Alternate years – One parent chooses to certain holidays on even years, and the other parent
chooses certain holidays on odd years.
Split the holiday— If your holiday plans are local, you might decide to split the holiday.
Perhaps Christmas Eve will be spent with one parent, while Christmas Day
with the other parent.
Fixed holidays: Maybe one parent loves Halloween and the other loves to have the children
on Christmas. You can choose to have fixed holidays, so your kids will
always know they spend Christmas with one parent and Halloween with the other.
Step 3 – Special accommodations for birthdays and long weekends should be discussed
in your holiday visitation schedule. During these times, your normal custody
schedule changes. Consider if your child will have two birthday celebrations
or if you both will be attendance for one. If there are three-day weekends
during the year, discuss how those will be handled.
Saponaro Barach Bingham LLP, we understand how important child custody schedules are for you and your
children. If you and your ex are unable to work out a holiday visitation
schedule, our Wellesley child custody attorney can help you through
child custody mediation. We offer free consultations. Please
contact us to schedule yours!