Many men and women over the age of 50 are filing for divorce after almost
two decades of marriage. This alarming new trend has led our Wellesley
divorce lawyers to explore the possible reasons why.
Divorce Was Not Collaborative
Saponaro Barach Bingham LLP, we work with couples who have been married from three to sixty years.
One of the reasons our older couples cite as reasons for their divorce
is that the marriage wasn’t collaborative. Often, women who have
been married to their spouse for over 20 years had at one point given
up their career to raise the children. After the children leave the nest,
these women are left feeling as if they gave up too much.
Large age gaps that may not have been a problem at the beginning of marriage
can become a problem as the couple ages. For example, a couple who may
have married when one was 40 and the other 20 may have a hard time managing
their lives when one is 40 and then other 60. The now 40-year-old in the
marriage is likely having a mid-life crisis and could be looking to make
some drastic changes. If the couple does not communicate well, this could
lead to divorce.
As both people approach retirement age, differences in spending habits
can quickly surface and cause a split. In many situations, one spouse
loves to spend money on extravagant vacations or luxury items while the
other is more interested in saving and investing. Without the steady income
in to support the difference in spending habits, couples may start to
disagree on money.
We’re Living Longer Lives
Before the Baby Boomers, couples who had been married, 20, 30 or 40 years
stayed together because the average lifespan was at most 65. People chose
to stay more often because they were only expected to live a few more
years. Today more couples are divorcing in their fifties because they
can see themselves living another 15 to 20 years.
Thinking of Divorce?
Filing for divorce after many years of marriage can be extremely complicated,
but worth it if you are living an unfulfilling life. Often couples who
have been together for that long have their assets and finances wound
tightly around one another. At
Saponaro Barach Bingham LLP, we have represented clients in your situation many times. Our meticulous
eye for detail, compassionate approach and reasonable attorney fees make
us an excellent legal asset to have in your corner. If you are thinking
of divorce, contact our
Wellesley divorce lawyers today for a free case evaluation.